I was limited. How could I know of the considerable odds ahead? She decided to keep me and continue on with the pregnancy. The pain she felt while in labor with me nearly brought her to death she explained. Do blessings include pain?
I was born in Madison Heights, Michigan. All appeared to be ok until a few years later. At age 4 I was taken to a routine check up where the Doctor discovered an unusual sound heard between heartbeats; a whooshing or swishing noise also known as a Heart Murmur. “Often, heart murmurs are harmless (innocent) and don’t need treatment but we will run follow-up tests to be sure the murmur isn’t serious”, the Doctor explained to my parents.
The test results. “The murmur is caused by a problem with a heart valve, is life-threatening and requires immediate surgery”, the Doctor says. Some how I woke up during the operation but I was too young to comprehend what was happening but I remember a nurse in show and the medical team rushing to comfort and sedate me. It was weird. My mom told me that on that day, during the same time of my operation, 2 other children went into surgery but only I left out alive. Why me?
Growing up through considerable obstacles. Growing up in Highland Park( a Burrough of Detroit) Michigan right off of 6mile and Woodward was rough as it was during that time, considered to be the Murder Capital. Drugs and Crime was everywhere. School? Well, the schools deteriorated due to the drugs and crime that invaded this once thriving city and resembled the movie Lean On Me with Morgan Freeman. Home? By the time I was nine my home also succumbed to drugs, alcohol, and crime. Home wasn’t always bad but this epidemic just hit a bad time.
On a path of destruction. My parents decided after my junior year of High School that a change of environment would be better for me especially after they caught me shooting dice in the back alleys with notorious drug dealers and killers. The city was toxic, contaminating all and infecting all those in its path with a destructive and violent attitude. I was angry all the time and fighting often with everyone (friends, family, and enemies). By this time I had witnessed all sorts of crime happen right in front of my eyes; I was growing increasingly numb.
Help! Shortly after I graduated from High School I entered the Navy after a run in with the law. Although I got into trouble often I managed to complete my 3yr term with a General under Honorable condition. This is where the course of my life began to turn to a more positive direction because 3 big things happened: one I met a beautiful queen in the Navy whom I would later marry , two my first child was born and three I witnessed advanced technology at its finest in action up close and personal and was hooked.
Defy Odds. Life had not been easy for me since before I was born. Nothing came easy to me. Not much help was offered to me. I was written off by many. There were many who believed and said I would be dead before the age of 25. Given the odds and obstacles that I faced it would be difficult for me to see an alternative outcome but something happened. I Changed. I decided to change. I decided I wanted to be the change I wanted to see in this world. Now….after suffering and enduring through the odds and obstacles of life I am here alive, healthy, happily married with 6children, with a great career in Technology as a Software Engineer earning over 6 figures a year.
My life changed because I changed.